Attitude is all about CHOICE!
We all as humans create our own reality, circumstances by the choices that we make and the choices that we make are fueled by our own thoughts so our thoughts are the most powerful think we have and based upon what we think determines who we are and we attract who we attract who we are into our lives.
To win the battle of life, One needs weapons like compassion & forgiveness.
It starts with FORGIVENESS…
Let Go…of your thoughts, anger, job, etc…
Forgiveness is freeing up and putting to better use the energy once consumed by holding grudges, harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds. It is rediscovering the strengths we always had and relocating our limitless capacity to understand and accept other people and ourselves.
Free yourself for what is to come. Do not let your past define you. I am not very good at listening to ‘stories.’ “This is what happen to me”… yada, yada.
I believe it’s keeping you where you are. It doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. It doesn’t mean they were right, it means you are willing to let it be a part of history…to let go!
What is forgiveness?
There’s no one definition of forgiveness. But in general, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentments and thoughts of revenge. This can reduce the power these feelings otherwise have over you, so that you can a live freer and happier life in the present. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Doesn’t forgiving someone mean you’re forgetting or condoning what happened?
Absolutely not! Forgiving isn’t the same as forgetting what happened to you. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life. But forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness also doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without
excusing the act.
Say…Thank you for giving me that experience. Those experiences are a part of you. It’s your job to learn how to love yourself, regardless of what has happened. It’s about shifting form all those places of negativity to possibility.
I’ve lived in those dark places. Do I slip up? You bet! That is when perspective and gratitude comes in or it should! Gratitude is absolutely the way to bring more into life. Be grateful for what you have now. As you begin to think about all the things in your life you are grateful for, you will be amazed at the never-ending thoughts that come back to you of more things to be grateful for.
“The daily practice of gratitude is one of the conduits by which your wealth will come to you.”
Tags: attitude, forgiveness, gratitude
3 comments
Posted by: Leeann on November 4, 2008 at 9:26 pm
Great post! Forgiveness is certainly easier said than done =)
Posted by: hilary on December 12, 2008 at 11:10 am
ok now you’ve give the best description… give me the instructions on HOW TO>…. please… thanks h
Posted by: Coach Chris on December 12, 2008 at 1:39 pm
Thank you Leeann
And I agree it definitely is “easier said than done”.
As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent-free space in your mind”
- ISABELLE HOLLAND
Hilary, I have a e-book coming out soon on forgiveness- which include step-by-step suggestions on “How To”. Please visit:
http://www.girltimecoaching.com/2008/08/catalog.html
When it comes to forgiveness, everything you experience is a test. When you become stuck in an unforgiving posture, you have not yet learned your lesson. The essence of forgiveness lies in understanding that there is really nothing to forgive. No one has harmed you, nor can they ever harm you. Everything is a reminder to let go and trust in your higher power.
Other people never truly hurt you; you hurt yourself by disconnecting from (our paths / journeys in life). Everything negative in our lives is designed to help us remember this fact.
Of course, this doesn’t mean you should lie back and allow other to step all over you. On the contrary! When you bring energy into your actions, you become more effective. But don’t hold onto the past or carry a grudge. If you are stuck in what has happened to you, you become resentful, unhappy, pessimistic, and embittered. Who are the shining, young people you know? They’re the ones who are in love with life because they know how to let go of the past and move on.
Christine