As much as I love words, I prefer writing them to actually speaking them. I feel far more is communicated through deeds rather than what we might say. I’ve always been drawn to the doers of the world rather than the talkers. I like people of action, who simply go about their business without having to report their every move to everyone they encounter.

I think we learn a great deal about a person through her demeanor, expression, and even her manner of dress. So, with that in mind, what sort of message are you sending about who you really are?

Do you smile when you enter a room? Do others genuinely smile when you enter said room?

Can others in the room pick up on your positive energy simply because you’ve got ‘the vibe’?

Does your presence evoke feelings of peace, fun, and overall fabulousness?

Are people naturally drawn to you?

Do you always leave your audience wanting a little bit more because you know when to leave the party?

Just a few things to think about. Let’s move on.

I’ve found over the years that people who begin a conversation with the phrase, “I’m the type of person who…” generally miss the mark when describing themselves. The same goes for those who insist that they ‘are not that way.’ Chances are, if at least two people have told you that, ‘yes, you are that way’ then there is probably something to it. I knew one man who described himself as a promoter of all things positive, yet was actually one of the most negative people I’d ever encountered. One gal I know loves to talk about her fantastic sense of humor, yet I’ve never heard her actually say anything remotely funny. Oh, and those folks who drone on and on about how intelligent they are usually come off sounding quite dumb, don’t you think?

The coolest people we will ever encounter simply live their lives, do their jobs, and allow success (and at times a fan base) to follow. They don’t report their every move on social networking sites. They don’t bore other people at parties with their latest-this-or-that (helpful hint: if the cool people you seek to associate with aren’t responding to you, it’s a pretty safe bet that you’re not as cool as you may think.)

I encourage you to really put some thought into the way in which you communicate. Show –don’t tell- the world who you really are. Don’t force yourself upon others by making yourself readily available. Make people seek you out by oozing a quiet confidence. Smile. Laugh. Be friendly. Remain calm. Become a successful doer, rather than another random talker.

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Beth Newman is an image consultant, life coach, and author based out of Houston, TX. For more information about her, she invites you to visit her website, www.newmanimage.info. You can also become a fan of Newman Image on Facebook.