I am currently as single as can be. It may come as a surprise to most, but the reason I am single is because I choose to be. This is not to say that I can walk out on any given day and find a partner, rather to point out that there are benefits to being single. A freedom encompasses it, the sort of freedom that allows you to find yourself.
Relationships are a compromise and despite the popular belief that your partner should solely lift you up to the best you can be, you will naturally have to alter yourself and they themselves in order to make living with another human work. This is not something negative at all, you’re still the same person but perhaps you choose to wear a specific top since you know your significant other likes it or you make sure your home is tidy out of respect to your partner.
When this relationship ends, however, it is important to take a step back and come back to the person you were before you spritzed on that perfume in order to please your now previous lover. There is a beauty in wanting to bring someone else joy, but there is an incomparable beauty in taking the time to bring yourself joy. From you to you. Allow yourself to be single, find your strength and resurface the epitome of what is you.
It is easy to forget what you are capable of. Being single forces you to solve your own problems. Hang up that painting on the wall: drilling the holes and vacuuming up the mess all on your own – and guess what, it looks amazing just where you placed it. You can never rely on someone else as much as you can rely on yourself. It is important to be in touch with this fact and be proud of being strong and independent. Being alone is what has allowed me to realise this. I am perfectly happy and I, myself, am the reason for that genuine happiness.
Thank you for this article and all of the empowerment in it! I love that you share how this is a life choice and that it makes you happy. Your title is my mantra!!